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Book Review: Wonder by RJ. Palacio

Last year when my daughter was in the fifth grade, one of her assigned reads was Wonder, by RJ Palacio. She read the book, very much enjoyed it and gave it to me to read, saying “you will love this, Maman”. It took a bit more prompting as I have plenty of my own books and never enough time to read. But once I did pick it up, I couldn’t stop reading.

The book is about a boy, Auggie, who was born with a severe facial deformity who, after being home-schooled his whole life, is about to enter the 5th grade at the local school. There are a wide range of reactions to the new kid with the deformed face. The book takes us through Auggie’s feelings, fears, courage, humor, and those of his sister, parents and ultimately friends.

I enjoyed the book and loved how each chapter is written from someone else’s point of view. I am  glad that my kids’ school assigns this book as it teaches children about acceptance, sensitivity and the effects of bullying. The book is recommended for ages 9 to 12 but I would recommend it to all parents out there. If you’ve ever taught your kids to not “judge a book by its cover”, pick up this book and read it with your kids. It is down-to-earth, heartfelt, witty, and funny.

 

 

Adoptive Parents Are The Parents!

I know it’s obvious to many: Adoptive parents are the parents! But how many of us still make the faux-pas of asking adoptive parents: “did you meet her mother”? Of course what we really mean to ask is whether they have met the biological mother. But we sometimes forget this very important word and it turns out–it is irritating to adoptive parents.

A relatively new friend of mine who is the adoptive mother to 2 Chinese girls was (rightly) complaining at me today on how people sometimes ask her, in front of the girls no less, whether they have met their parents. Sometimes they even ask if the girls (ages 10 and 12) are sisters. Hello! they have grown up together under the same roof with the same loving parents since their infancy. They compete for their parents’ attention and fight over clothing. Isn’t that sisters enough?

And again, apparently, asking if the girls are biological sisters makes all the difference. Phew, I said to myself, for I remember asking exactly that when my friend first brought up the topic many months ago.

Another thing I’ve come to realize is that just because someone brings up something, does not necessarily give us, the listeners, carte-blanche to ask any question we want. Not just on the adoption issue. This goes for anything. Let’s use our judgment and know when we are getting very close to that line where it’s just no longer ok to pry.

I do give a ton of credit to this adoptive mom for being so open about it, especially with her daughters, and for learning and teaching them about their origins.

Bonjour!

My name is Valerie and I am the Owner of TreZ’Unique, an online boutique for kids (trezunique.com)

I was born and raised in Paris, France, one girl with 2 brothers. I love fashion. I get that from my mom, a New Yorker who settled in Paris after meeting my Papa (a Parisian) in St. Moritz, Switzerland.

I came to New York City for college and never looked back. There is no place like New York, no matter what they say. Plus I met my husband here, a born and bred New Yorker.

I decided to feature a blog on the site because I am often asked about style and fashion and I thought it would be fun to share some advice and get some advice from you!

Truth be told it took a few years of owning and managing the online store before deciding to finally link a blog to the site. It was not an easy decision since I am quite a private person. I had this worry about putting too much information out there. But then something awesome happened this year. I turned 40! I had a party and was surrounded by my husband, 4 kids and closest girlfriends and it was a blast. More on the party another time.

Turning 40 was scary at first because you think 40 is old but let me tell you I feel younger then ever plus now somehow I don’t sweat the small stuff- like worry about sharing too much info about myself (not everyone out there is a predator) and now I have a blog and I invite you for the ride! But let me warn you, I have an opinion about everything, from hiring help (it’s allowed, even for stay-at-home- moms) to school clothing  to Sunday activities to family trips. So wish me luck, and let’s start the conversation!

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